a zen moment can come at any time

A flash of insight or intuition.  An idea, a possible solution, long sought after and then abruptly and unexpectedly stumbled upon.  A sudden chuckle at an unexpected, humorous situation.  Even, a jolt of intense physical pain to remind us that the human condition is a painful one.

Being fully present in the present moment – and realizing that this is all we have – that for me is the essence of zen.  The immediacy, intensity and clarity of direct (interpretation-free) experience – that is zen.  As well, actively participating in the dynamic process called life, rather than being a mere spectator, is necessary to being fully alive.




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sexual love within marriage: its giving nature

The sexual love the spouses share with each other is naturally giving.  Sadly, among married Christians there is much confusion on this subject of sexual love, with some spouses needlessly suffering from unhealthy inhibitions and even feeling shame in the marriage bed.  This is so unnecessary.  Letting go of, or shedding these inhibitions and shame will open you to a deeper, richer emotional intimacy with your spouse during your lovemaking.

Mutually fulfilling lovemaking is not the only necessary ingredient for a successful, lasting, happy marriage – but the reality is that it is one of the key ingredients!  And, God intended that both spouses enjoy sexual fulfillment within their loving marriage.  (If you doubt this, consider the sexual capacity (for arousal, desire and pleasure) in both the man and the woman all throughout each month.  Of course, the emotions are also intimately involved.)

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when you are vulnerable

During a crisis, that is when you need to keep your wits about you.  But, that is the most difficult time to keep a cool head and refrain from rash, short-sighted decisions and harmful actions.  When so much seems against you and you are faced with several problems assaulting you all at once, that is when you must be extra careful and avoid becoming your own worst adversary and doing yourself (and others) serious harm.

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