a paradox of knowledge and awareness

The more you know, the more you realize there is even more you do not know.  This is the substance of what a lecturer told us one morning in a large lecture hall at university.  (8:00 a.m. classes were rough for some of us night owls.)

Specifically, he said that when you receive your bachelor’s degree, you know some things and you realize that there is much you do not know.  Later, if you continue your education and earn a master’s degree, you know even more than you knew with just your bachelor’s degree but you are also aware that there is an even larger amount of knowledge that you do not know.  This process continues for those who labor for and achieve their doctorates (PhD). Yes, one at the doctoral level knows much by human standards, but he/she is even more acutely aware of an ever larger body of knowledge that is still beyond their reach (or perhaps, grasp).  With greater knowledge comes a larger awareness of how finite our knowledge is.


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circumcision: dialog with a pediatric nurse

There are many myths surrounding routine infant male circumcision in the United States.

What is rarely thought about by parents when they consider letting the doctors and/or interns circumcise their son(s) is the child’s right to bodily integrity.  And, too many Americans (including US pediatricians) are woefully ignorant as to the function of the foreskin.

We thought we would share this recent exchange between us and a circumcisionist over on YouTube (the link to the video with comments is below).


circumcision in the US


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a lunch box flashback

There it was on the store shelf – a metal lunch box for school children. Walking down one of the aisles in the supermarket today I could not help seeing it.  Something colorful about Dr. Seuss on the exterior.

I paused and picked it up.  I rubbed the back of my fingers lightly across the smooth thin metal exterior.  Then my fingers found the latch on the top and opened the lunch box.  The same shiny metal interior that I remember from a time now nearly 50 years ago.

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sexual love within marriage: its giving nature

The sexual love the spouses share with each other is naturally giving.  Sadly, among married Christians there is much confusion on this subject of sexual love, with some spouses needlessly suffering from unhealthy inhibitions and even feeling shame in the marriage bed.  This is so unnecessary.  Letting go of, or shedding these inhibitions and shame will open you to a deeper, richer emotional intimacy with your spouse during your lovemaking.

Mutually fulfilling lovemaking is not the only necessary ingredient for a successful, lasting, happy marriage – but the reality is that it is one of the key ingredients!  And, God intended that both spouses enjoy sexual fulfillment within their loving marriage.  (If you doubt this, consider the sexual capacity (for arousal, desire and pleasure) in both the man and the woman all throughout each month.  Of course, the emotions are also intimately involved.)

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a needless source of conflict revisited

a needless source of conflict revisited


We have added a very lengthy addendum to our earlier essay (from November, 2012) “a needless source of conflict in a loving marriage“.  In this addendum, there are many honest, insightful, and helpful comments from married women.  We offer the link to this now expanded essay (below) for those who may be interested in reading and thinking about its contents.

This is sure to be controversial and is not an essay for all readers.

The original essay and its new addendum are really for young wives and open minded middle aged wives who are seeking greater sexual intimacy with their husbands.  We wish for wives and husbands to achieve sexual fulfillment and joy within their loving marriages.  We believe that oral sex has a place in the couple’s lovemaking within a Christian marriage.  Why should Christian married couples not enjoy the depths of sexual intimacy?  And, attitudes are rapidly changing in Christian circles regarding this form of expression of the sexual love between the spouses.  As well, stronger, more loving marriages not only benefit the spouses and their children, but also benefit society as a whole.

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the “nice guy” syndrome in marriage and relationships

“Nice guys finish last.” is an old adage.

A behavior pattern of many men that is discussed on a few marriage and relationship blogs is that of the nice guy (often abbreviated as “ng” or “NG“).

The nice guy is the man who will be considerate of his wife and her wishes to the point of suppressing or sublimating his own needs and desires.  Nice guys do not like conflict with their spouse and will make conscious efforts to avoid conflict.  (They aim to please.)  Nice guys seem to be okay with a lose-win relationship with their wife.  Such men are described as being “sensitive” and considerate.  Needless to say, there are (not a few) women who like such a man, a nice guy – but not necessarily for who he is.  They like someone who gives in all the time and gives them their way almost all the time.

Some men do not realize they are playing the role of the nice guy.

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chemtrails are real

There was a plane making a chemtrail pattern in the sky this morning. Coming out of my garage at 11:00 a.m. this morning, I saw a plane high in the sky emitting a chemtrail.  Not a contrail.  These lines made across the blue northern sky were not dissipating or diffusing as contrails do.  There were several such lines across the sky to the west and to the east of our home’s location north of Reno, Nevada.  We have seen these lines in the past, but rarely have we seen the plane actually making them.

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the abortion breast cancer link

Why are women not being told of this?

Some times real world consequences are taken more seriously than moral concerns.

This link between aborting a first pregnancy and an increased risk of breast cancer later in life for the woman (or girl) who aborts has been known for some years now (since at least the mid to late 1990s).  Yet, abortion providers and those who refer women and teenage girls to abortion providers rarely inform their patients of this link.  As well, the American medical establishment fails to take this link seriously and remains silent about it.  The breast cancer research charities are interested in finding a cure and want your financial donations.  These organizations are not interested in prevention. (There is no money to be made in prevention.)

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