death in eastern thought – part one

Why do we fear death?

3 possible reasons are fear of the unknown, fear of the cessation of consciousness, and fear of hell-fire (punishment).

The next moment is an unknown to us.  Tomorrow is guaranteed to no one. The next time you get into your car a reckless or drunk or drugged driver might kill you in a smash-up.  Unknowns are ever-present in this life.

If one’s fear of death is really the fear of the end of one’s consciousness, you can easily discard this silly fear.  If bodily death ends your consciousness, you won’t be aware (conscious) of being without consciousness.  You won’t be around, so to speak, to regret the loss of your consciousness.  We might say one would have the peace of the grave.

As to fear of hell-fire, if you have lived a loving and moral life why would you fear the prospect of hell-fire?  Have you refrained from harming others – all others (even those tiny and defenseless)?  True, many people are in a state of denial as to how they have lived their lives – but that is a possible topic for another day.

Another consideration is that death, like being born, is something that we do completely alone.  We cannot do it in a group setting or context.  Even when several individuals are killed at once, say in a building collapse or from a bomb exploding, each dies as an individual.  It is not a group death but rather a death for several distinct individuals.

Here is one of our pics from a mausoleum, columbarium and crematorium complex.  It reminds us of human mortality.


columbarium 7

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sexual love within marriage: its giving nature

The sexual love the spouses share with each other is naturally giving.  Sadly, among married Christians there is much confusion on this subject of sexual love, with some spouses needlessly suffering from unhealthy inhibitions and even feeling shame in the marriage bed.  This is so unnecessary.  Letting go of, or shedding these inhibitions and shame will open you to a deeper, richer emotional intimacy with your spouse during your lovemaking.

Mutually fulfilling lovemaking is not the only necessary ingredient for a successful, lasting, happy marriage – but the reality is that it is one of the key ingredients!  And, God intended that both spouses enjoy sexual fulfillment within their loving marriage.  (If you doubt this, consider the sexual capacity (for arousal, desire and pleasure) in both the man and the woman all throughout each month.  Of course, the emotions are also intimately involved.)

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a needless source of conflict revisited

a needless source of conflict revisited


We have added a very lengthy addendum to our earlier essay (from November, 2012) “a needless source of conflict in a loving marriage“.  In this addendum, there are many honest, insightful, and helpful comments from married women.  We offer the link to this now expanded essay (below) for those who may be interested in reading and thinking about its contents.

This is sure to be controversial and is not an essay for all readers.

The original essay and its new addendum are really for young wives and open minded middle aged wives who are seeking greater sexual intimacy with their husbands.  We wish for wives and husbands to achieve sexual fulfillment and joy within their loving marriages.  We believe that oral sex has a place in the couple’s lovemaking within a Christian marriage.  Why should Christian married couples not enjoy the depths of sexual intimacy?  And, attitudes are rapidly changing in Christian circles regarding this form of expression of the sexual love between the spouses.  As well, stronger, more loving marriages not only benefit the spouses and their children, but also benefit society as a whole.

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chemtrails are real

There was a plane making a chemtrail pattern in the sky this morning. Coming out of my garage at 11:00 a.m. this morning, I saw a plane high in the sky emitting a chemtrail.  Not a contrail.  These lines made across the blue northern sky were not dissipating or diffusing as contrails do.  There were several such lines across the sky to the west and to the east of our home’s location north of Reno, Nevada.  We have seen these lines in the past, but rarely have we seen the plane actually making them.

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the abortion breast cancer link

Why are women not being told of this?

Some times real world consequences are taken more seriously than moral concerns.

This link between aborting a first pregnancy and an increased risk of breast cancer later in life for the woman (or girl) who aborts has been known for some years now (since at least the mid to late 1990s).  Yet, abortion providers and those who refer women and teenage girls to abortion providers rarely inform their patients of this link.  As well, the American medical establishment fails to take this link seriously and remains silent about it.  The breast cancer research charities are interested in finding a cure and want your financial donations.  These organizations are not interested in prevention. (There is no money to be made in prevention.)

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when you are vulnerable

During a crisis, that is when you need to keep your wits about you.  But, that is the most difficult time to keep a cool head and refrain from rash, short-sighted decisions and harmful actions.  When so much seems against you and you are faced with several problems assaulting you all at once, that is when you must be extra careful and avoid becoming your own worst adversary and doing yourself (and others) serious harm.

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