A terribly disturbing yet thought provoking comment on a Christian marriage blog is the impetus for this post. Before providing the full quote of the comment (below), let us pose the relevant questions.
Is a sexual incompatibility of the spouses reasonable grounds for seeking a divorce? Can married couples achieve a more harmonious and mutually fulfilling and satisfying sexual life over time through effort and sacrifice? How important is good sex to the strength and success of the marriage? Why are the Christian churches largely silent on this challenge present in many marriages today? What about the harm, the very great harm, done to children who suffer through a dissolution of their parents’ marriage? A final question could be: Why do women play the role of refuser or gatekeeper when it comes to being sexually available for their husband?
Our feature image was captured last May (2016) while on holiday in Arches National Park, Utah.
Recently, we found a little known blog that has several helpful essays for married persons. The essays are written by a Christian woman for wives. We share links (below) to 3 of the blog’s essays in the hope that these will help some readers.
This post is in answer to the many comments on Christian marriage blogs by wives who lament, justify and rationalize their unwillingness to give oral sex to their husband.
Healthy sexual intimacy within marriage can be an area of frustration, even confusion, for some married Christians. Yet, fulfilling sexual intimacy within one’s marriage is something not to be taken for granted nor neglected.
In this short essay, we provide links to some helpful resources in this area.
Here is a post we came across today that we think may interest some readers.
The important role lovemaking plays within marriage is discussed. Though the target audience is married Catholics, others (Christian and non-Christian) may gain from the insights offered. The author’s views may be considered “controversial” by some readers.
Click the link below to go to the post.
Sex is the nourishing food of marriage
Thanks for reading.
The important thing to remember is that we are spiritual beings having a human experience. We first read of this concept in one of Stephen Covey’s books 25 years ago. The concept, however, is very old in some religious and philosophic schools of thought.
Being “pure” does not require the complete desexualization of the individual.
It is sad that Christianity became warped by the influence of ancient pagan schools of thought that had a contempt for the flesh and anything related to the flesh. If one reads the New Testament, one does not find an animosity towards the married state nor towards sex within marriage. This animosity came later and is not authentically Christian.
At the cordial request of another blogger, Belah Rose, we are presenting our review of the recent podcast:
DYM Ep34: Why He Wants It All The Time (And What He Should Do To Get It)
found at this link:
Belah, a wife and mother, is an insightful Christian marriage author, blogger, and speaker. We encourage interested readers to listen to her podcast, and visit her website.
Our feature photo is “A Heart in the Open” and was taken by my wife, Lucy, in San Francisco two years ago.